Monday, December 1, 2014

A Letter for Your Fifth Birthday


December 5, 2014

Dear Ava,

Today on your fifth birthday, I reflect back lovingly over the past year and even though you grow more independent and taller by the day, I will remember this past year as a glorious time full of the sweetest kisses and cuddles. Every day when I arrive home from school, I am greeted with your squeals of laughter as you sing my name and squeeze me tight, while you shower me with petal soft kisses that help to melt the stress of the day.

Over the past year, all of your play and discoveries were often punctuated with “That is science!” your motto for the year.  Your dad and I would smile proudly as you explained to complete strangers your love for science, especially bacteria.  Yes, that is right you have a passion for bacteria.  Some mornings, your daddy would take you to work early so you could spend some time observing them under the microscope, solidifying your love for the subject.  You also confidently walked into bookstores and libraries to check out books on the subject and you once told a curious couple that when you grow up you were going to study bacteria (the looks on their faces were priceless). 

This past year you also officially learned how to swim.  You have always been a water baby, but you have a new found freedom in the water and you have become an expert with your little pink mask and fins.  The underwater world has quickly become a place of wonder and discovery.  You are still a little afraid of crabs (blame it on the cheeky Sri Lankan hermit crab that gave you a little pinch) but you love to dive to intrepid depths to spy on the reef creatures. In the pool, backstroke has quickly become your best and this mamma can’t help but smile as you leave the older boys eating your wake as you propel past them during swim lessons.

You are a maker!  Every day, you are inspired to create.  Some days you make paper houses and you fill them with intricately designed and hand cut furnishings.  These fragile houses serve as a home to the paper doll families that you also create.  On other days, you design bags and you fill them with everything a prepared girl would need, again all drawn and cut from your imaginative designs.  On any given day your little table is piled high with your creations. You have also discovered the bliss of engineering with Lego’s, as your little fingers keenly piece together little communities for your Lego animals to explore.

Inspired by the book “Violet the Pilot” you have begun a collection of found items, finding a special use for each uniquely designed piece… of toilet paper roll, takeout boxes, bits of string, etc. We have had to make room for your growing pile of “airplane parts” that are now scattered around your workplace, all a part of your magnificent plan to build an airplane that will one day fly you across the seas to Los Angeles to visit your grandparents.

Some of our most special moments together are spent in our kitchen.  Whenever it is time to cook, you and your dutiful green stool are always by my side. One of your favorites to make is “Happy Chicken.” I love the way your little hands expertly measure out the spices and you talk about balsamic vinegar like a seasoned chef. Your adventurous spirit extends to your favorite foods as well.  You have an eclectic palate; however your go to meal usually includes seaweed, sushi, dumplings and fried rice.
 

You continue to enjoy the splendor of travel, with trips to the tropical islands of the Perhentians in Malaysia and Palawan in the Philippians.  Your travel highlight of the year was a visit to Chiang Mai, in amazing Thailand.  While there, you found awe in the gilded temples and you were fascinated by the Buddhist monks in their saffron robes.  You threw your arms wide and laughed out loud as we zipped down the rain forest covered mountains on our family moped.  Your love for animals was compounded after a day spent taking care of the elephants in a local conservation reserve, where you bathed and fed these gentle giants.  You delighted in Thai cuisine, especially the mangoes and sticky rice. Upon return home, you were already making plans to go back.

This year you requested a “Rock and Roll Minnie Mouse” birthday party.  For the first time, you helped to suggest and pick out the decorations.  I had a little giggle when you thought you needed flashy lights and a disco ball to accomplish the theme. Your love for music continues to grow and this year it was all about “Rock and Roll.”  Sometimes we would be sitting around the coffee table and your shoulders would begin to subtly move, then the head would start bobbing and before long your hum would soon crescendo into a belting out of your anthem “Firework.”


Writing these letters to you have now become a cherished time for me to share my memories of you over the past year. I have visions of the future you looking back at these letters as visions of your past begin to take life each year on this special day. My lovely Ava, thank you for sharing your exuberant smile, your quiet confidence, your silly humor and your love for animals with the world. Have the happiest of fifth birthdays my love.

Your Mommy




Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Shaping her passions



The other day I saw these two quotes “The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice” and this “your children become who you are, so be who you want them to be.”  As a parent, I immediately started to evaluate the words I use and the actions that I take.  I thought to myself, am I using my words to ensure that Ava grows up to be confident, brave and not afraid to be a strong leader?  Do I show her that it is okay to be unique?  That making mistakes is okay? That we don’t have to be perfect all of the time?  That it is our actions not our belongings (or our looks) that define us?

This morning Ava came in to school with me and while waiting for her day to start she drew a picture.  In the picture she drew a dark piece of coral and then she added three colorful fish and then she said “This is a fish family that is eating the coral” and I was pretty impressed.  Then I took her over to her to her classroom and her teacher, Ms. Judith, said that the class has been studying about sea life. During their circle time discussions the topic about sharks has come up several times and Judith said that all of the children have expressed a real fear of sharks and that they would share many of the common misconceptions that people, especially four year olds have, about the species.  Judith then went on to tell me that each time this topic comes up, Ava boldly tells her friends what she knows about sharks, and that there are many different types of sharks and that they are an important part of the marine ecosystem, not something to be feared or hated.  Apparently, each time this topic comes up Ava stands proudly to remind her friends of this, even mentioning that her mommy and daddy often swim with the sharks.  Ava has even seen her daddy rescue a shark (a long story for another time).

Right in that moment I realized that the actions we take as parents are important and I reveled in a moment of pride for my daughter (the budding ecologist?).  I was then overcome with a sense of relief.  A relief knowing that Ava has the confidence to share her passions. That she knows that it is okay to disagree wither her friends and not compromise her beliefs.  That being smart and loving science is cool. That it is important to stand up for those that don’t have a voice to speak for themselves.  

I guess we aren’t doing so badly after all.